As with my previous blog about What Makes The Perfect Cuckold Couple Part 1 of 2. Fantasy and reality don't always amount to the same thing. So once again I will split the blog in two separate parts. In the first part I will describe what I think is a couples vision of the perfect Bull.
If there is one thing I really enjoy about any of my interests it is the people that share that interest. I am fascinated by people. So in this context when a cuckold couple catches my attention I am always eager to learn from them. For that is always my mindset. Regardless of how knowledgeable one might think one is, there is always something new and interesting to discover.
Based on my conversations with couples who refer to themselves as being cuckold I often wonder what their vision of the perfect Bull would be. Now before I go any further I feel at pains to point out that as a Bull all I can do is guess the couples perspective. So if any couples wish to discuss or comment on this blog please feel free.
I always imagine a couple's vision of the perfect Bull depends very much on what kind of couple they are. For what I would call the cuckold role-play, hot-wife couple the physical presence of the Bull is of the utmost importance. There may not be a requirement or even a desire to meet the Bull on a second occasion. So a couple like this is unlikely to deviate much from their vision of the perfect Bull when on their quest.
For the fantasy to work the Bull has to look the part. Physically he must be superior to the husband in every way. He must be taller, in better physical condition and have a cock bigger than that of the husband. With this in mind the couple will probably be looking for a male in his thirties. Old enough to present himself with a certain level of maturity and young enough for them to feel confident that he is fit enough to be sexually superior to the husband.
Although not always the case it does appear that here in the UK, in the majority of cases the Bull also needs to be black.
For the couple more interested in meeting a Bull on a semi/regular basis or cuckolding as a lifestyle the criteria is going to be slightly different. Al of the above is still important but other factors will also have to be taken into consideration. Is the Bull single and local enough to be able to meet at short notice and on a regular basis. Is the Bull experienced enough to be able to hold the interest of the couple. Can he be trusted to meet the wife alone on occasion. Is he able to do overnight or weekend sessions. Can he accommodate?
If the couple are considering bareback sex can he be trusted to play safe. Will he take the need of many cuckolds to clean up into account. To what level will he allow the cuckold husband to join in. If the husband has any Bisexual tendencies how accepting will the Bull be Will he get to know the cuckold or will he just fuck the wife and ignore the husband?
Sounds lovely doesn't it. But as with most things in the real world it is not so simple. I will explain my thoughts on why in Part Two.
18 May 2014
13 May 2014
What makes the perfect cuckold couple Part 2 of 2
As hinted at in the first part of this blog there is fantasy and there is reality. In my vision of the perfect scenario the Bull would be in a full time relationship with the couple and there would be several meets per month. However in the real world there are many obstacles that get in the way of this. Distance, children, chemistry and indeed nervousness from the couple about what impact the closeness of the Bull to the wife will have on their relationship.
Taking the above into account my ideal realistic desire would be to meet up to four couples on a regular basis. Each at least once a month and that at least one or two of the four be true cuckold lifestyle enthusiasts.
What realistic expectations would I have of a cuckold couple? Well nothing is set in stone because everyone is different but I like a couple where I am able to get to know the wife as well as the husband reasonably well over time. This is particularly important if you are only able to meet on a monthly basis.
Without reasonably frequent dialogue the momentum quickly dies away. This is a gentle warning to cuckold husbands. Your enthusiasm for being cuckolded, desire to discuss your fantasies and role as gatekeeper in the early stages can sometimes get in the way. Now don't get me wrong. I both understand and enjoy this process. After all if I don't get into the mind of the cuckold I will have no way of knowing how best to humiliate the cuckold in a way that is arousing and not annoying annoying to him.
So husbands, if you truly want to be cuckolded you need to control your rampant enthusiasm and give your wife the time and space to bond with the Bull. This leads me on neatly to one of the differences between my definition of what I regard as swinging and hot-wife as opposed to cuckold couples.
As a proud lone wolf Dom I have no interest in being a Bull for a couple that craves lots of black cock on a regular basis. This is not a moral judgement but a practical one. Indeed in the past I would occasionally reward my sub with a surprise gangbangs if I felt she had been a good girl. as a Dom Bull I strongly believe the importance of quality over quantity must be understood by all concerned if the arrangement is to blossom.
That's the thing about the cuckolding lifestyle you have to be prepared to invest in it if you want the rewards. Which means you have to look deep within yourself and ask yourself is this what I really want. Is it the cuckold lifestyle I seek or cuckold role-play? One has to take the journey with ones eyes open, with complete honesty and with patience.
Taking the above into account my ideal realistic desire would be to meet up to four couples on a regular basis. Each at least once a month and that at least one or two of the four be true cuckold lifestyle enthusiasts.
What realistic expectations would I have of a cuckold couple? Well nothing is set in stone because everyone is different but I like a couple where I am able to get to know the wife as well as the husband reasonably well over time. This is particularly important if you are only able to meet on a monthly basis.
Without reasonably frequent dialogue the momentum quickly dies away. This is a gentle warning to cuckold husbands. Your enthusiasm for being cuckolded, desire to discuss your fantasies and role as gatekeeper in the early stages can sometimes get in the way. Now don't get me wrong. I both understand and enjoy this process. After all if I don't get into the mind of the cuckold I will have no way of knowing how best to humiliate the cuckold in a way that is arousing and not annoying annoying to him.
So husbands, if you truly want to be cuckolded you need to control your rampant enthusiasm and give your wife the time and space to bond with the Bull. This leads me on neatly to one of the differences between my definition of what I regard as swinging and hot-wife as opposed to cuckold couples.
As a proud lone wolf Dom I have no interest in being a Bull for a couple that craves lots of black cock on a regular basis. This is not a moral judgement but a practical one. Indeed in the past I would occasionally reward my sub with a surprise gangbangs if I felt she had been a good girl. as a Dom Bull I strongly believe the importance of quality over quantity must be understood by all concerned if the arrangement is to blossom.
That's the thing about the cuckolding lifestyle you have to be prepared to invest in it if you want the rewards. Which means you have to look deep within yourself and ask yourself is this what I really want. Is it the cuckold lifestyle I seek or cuckold role-play? One has to take the journey with ones eyes open, with complete honesty and with patience.
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