........as mentioned previously although I was happy to attend swinging events on a go with the flow basis, in order to increase the chances of us having possible foursome with couples, I felt that the occasional nudge to balance things out was required.
Our first couples only club event was a bit of a mixed success. We went to the VA club which is without doubt our favourite venue. It has a very large jaccuzi and all the play areas are out in the open. So if you are feeling in any way shy or self conscious this is not the right place to be. I first heard about this club when I was still single and my feelings about it were mixed. I had heard good things about it but wasn't sure how I would feel about the fact that there was no way of hiding yourself away for a more intimate experience.
However I need not have worried. I now feel that because there is nowhere to hide it adds to the sexy atmosphere of the club. In most clubs once it gets beyond midnight all the lockable areas are in use and often one of two things can happen. If you have been taking your time to get to know someone and now feel ready to have fun with them. Then trying to find a free area can be a rather frustrating mood killing experience.
Another thing that can sometimes happen is that it can make the club feel all but empty. So as a single male if you go on a night when not that many people attend and you haven't really clicked with anyone before the late hours, you can very quickly get bored. Why? because you're not having fun with anyone and you can't even have a little perv because everything is taking place behind locked doors.
However because The VA club is designed with an open layout. The is always something of interest to see. I also suspect that because there is nowhere to hide it brings out the exhibitionist in everyone and takes away some of the pressure that one might feel in other swinging establishments.
Anyway as indicated previously, our first visit to VA on a typical couples only night was a bit of a mixed bag. Without the presence of single males the atmosphere in a swinging club is very different. Couples are are lot more hesitant in engaging with each other. Although this is sometimes out of choice, more often than not it is due to shyness and not being sure how to engage with others.
You will find that men are much more respectful when approaching women. However I strongly suspect this has more to do with them not wanting to annoy their partner than them being miraculously more respectful of women than their single male counterparts. Either way, the mood is very different.
Were I to give advice to couples taking their first baby steps into swinging I would probably suggest that they go to a club on a couples night first. It is certainly a lot less intimidating. However for some it would be rather boring and something of an anti-climax.
Although we engaged a few couples in conversation the main source of excitement was the fact that we were able to fuck and watch other people fucking in close proximity to us. So it was more of a voyeuristic event than anything else.
Having said that there was one rather controversial moment that did put us to the test. At one point on one of the beds Foxy was giving me one of her legendary blow jobs. This was closely observed by a middle aged white couple who had come to sit right next to us to watch. As soon as Foxy paused for a break the woman leant over and started to eagerly suck my cock. she had clearly been waiting for an opportunity and she seized it.
It felt amazing but I was also keenly aware of the fact that the woman hadn't asked either of us for permission to suck. I pulled Foxy closer to me and quietly asked her if she was ok with the situation. I can't quite remember what she mumbled to me but her face was all the answer I needed. I'd be lying if I said no will power was needed but at that point I instantly told her to stop and we moved to another part of the club.
There we sat for a while and discussed what had happened. Basically Foxy's sentiment was very much like mine when we are dealing with single males in clubs. Had the lady shown her respect by engaging with her she would have been happy to let her give me a blow job. However because she felt ignored and disrespected there was no way she was going to be happy with the situation.
Influenced in part by that incident we never take anything for granted when involving others at clubs. There may one day be a time where an expression or slight gesture from the other will be enough for the other to know its ok to engage with another person or couple. But for now we feel it safest and best to expressly seek permission from the other.
Another thing that we learnt from that couples only night and others that we have attended is how much more difficult it is to find a couple to have fun with than it is single males. The law of averages means that it is easy to bump into at least one single male at a club who is half decent and you can have fun with. However with couples just leaving things to chance has significantly lower chance of success. Its no coincidence that the very first time we had a proper foursome it was with people already know to us. Now that was fun. I will tell you all about that adventure in the next part of this blog......
Anyway as indicated previously, our first visit to VA on a typical couples only night was a bit of a mixed bag. Without the presence of single males the atmosphere in a swinging club is very different. Couples are are lot more hesitant in engaging with each other. Although this is sometimes out of choice, more often than not it is due to shyness and not being sure how to engage with others.
You will find that men are much more respectful when approaching women. However I strongly suspect this has more to do with them not wanting to annoy their partner than them being miraculously more respectful of women than their single male counterparts. Either way, the mood is very different.
Were I to give advice to couples taking their first baby steps into swinging I would probably suggest that they go to a club on a couples night first. It is certainly a lot less intimidating. However for some it would be rather boring and something of an anti-climax.
Although we engaged a few couples in conversation the main source of excitement was the fact that we were able to fuck and watch other people fucking in close proximity to us. So it was more of a voyeuristic event than anything else.
Having said that there was one rather controversial moment that did put us to the test. At one point on one of the beds Foxy was giving me one of her legendary blow jobs. This was closely observed by a middle aged white couple who had come to sit right next to us to watch. As soon as Foxy paused for a break the woman leant over and started to eagerly suck my cock. she had clearly been waiting for an opportunity and she seized it.
It felt amazing but I was also keenly aware of the fact that the woman hadn't asked either of us for permission to suck. I pulled Foxy closer to me and quietly asked her if she was ok with the situation. I can't quite remember what she mumbled to me but her face was all the answer I needed. I'd be lying if I said no will power was needed but at that point I instantly told her to stop and we moved to another part of the club.
There we sat for a while and discussed what had happened. Basically Foxy's sentiment was very much like mine when we are dealing with single males in clubs. Had the lady shown her respect by engaging with her she would have been happy to let her give me a blow job. However because she felt ignored and disrespected there was no way she was going to be happy with the situation.
Influenced in part by that incident we never take anything for granted when involving others at clubs. There may one day be a time where an expression or slight gesture from the other will be enough for the other to know its ok to engage with another person or couple. But for now we feel it safest and best to expressly seek permission from the other.
Another thing that we learnt from that couples only night and others that we have attended is how much more difficult it is to find a couple to have fun with than it is single males. The law of averages means that it is easy to bump into at least one single male at a club who is half decent and you can have fun with. However with couples just leaving things to chance has significantly lower chance of success. Its no coincidence that the very first time we had a proper foursome it was with people already know to us. Now that was fun. I will tell you all about that adventure in the next part of this blog......
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