A Polyamorous Bi Black Bull. Is That A Thing??? Part 1 of 3

It's Monday morning and I'm now just days away from attending an interracial swingers partly with a theme that caters more closely and overtly to my sexual preferences. It’s the BMFC Bull night at Xtasia’s. It's because of the theme that I'm prepared to make the long trip......long for us Londoner anyway 🤣. Interestingly the very last time I made the trip was shortly before the first Covid lockdown back in early 2020. 

Talk about a cruel twist of fate. At the time I was just coming out of a long-term relationship. Although we would sometimes swing as a couple there were no opportunities for me to continue with my adventures as a Bull with couples. Until that last party I hadn't quite realised how much I had missed meeting couples within the cuckolding dynamic. Getting to know couples beforehand has always been a more natural approach for me and this was very much the case that night.  

I host a very discreet carefully vetted messaging app chat group that caters exclusively to swingers who enjoy interracial fun with bicurious and bisexual black men. Some of the members attended that night and I was lucky enough to have fun with two of the couples. Both were very different and that was reflected in the type of fun that I had with each one. I've gone into this in more detail in a previous blog so in this one I will just summarise. 

The first couple was the older of the two. I don't think I will ever get over the rush that I get from being able to openly flirt with another man’s wife in his presence it’s so NOT the right and proper thing to do mmmmmmm. What's also a rush is witnessing the excitement of cuckolds when they know that they don't have to keep a distance when I'm having fun with their wives. The cuckold from the slightly older couple wasted no time when we got into one of Xtasia’s private playrooms. After lots of sensual kissing we all got naked. As soon as I leant over to taste his wife's pussy the cuck went straight for my arse and started rimming me. His pent up desire to "service me" as the Bull was horny as fuck. 

With the second younger couple the dynamic was very different. We met by the edge of the dance floor and within moments the wife and me were kissing. It was instinctive and we could barely keep our hands of each other. The BDSM Dom in me sensed her submissive side but more importantly what kind of sub she was, so I gave her a task. It was to fuck as many black men as took her fancy and to come to my hotel room later that night. That she did and boy did we have fun. As a reward for being such a good sub I made one of her fantasies come true by later inviting one of the guys from my chat group into the room. Her cuckold was a bit on the shy side so he didn't get quite as involved as the first one.  

Fast forward to now it's April 2022 The BMFC (Black Mans Fan Club) party is just days away but my personal circumstances are rather different. So what will my approach be this time around? hmmmmmm.... 

Post 2020 My Journey Back Into The Lifestyle. Bull Swinger Or Something Else?

 It's been a long time since I last wrote a blog, in part because I wanted to focus on other things and of course in no small part due to all the upheaval that we have all gone through over the past couple of years. 

Being single during covid was to put it mildly not much fun but on the flip side it was an opportune moment in time to reflect on what direction I wanted to take with regard to relationships and my sexual journey going forward. 

In summary I can to the conclusion that my sexual fulfilment required balance.  

So what does balance look like for someone like me? I’m pretty sure that ultimately each and every one of us has a core need to be cared for and loved regardless of what mask of independent self-sufficiency we present to the outside world. 

However, from the perspective of a swinger how can this be achieved without having to sacrifice the freedom to fully express one's sexual desires. During lockdown as much as I ached for sensual kisses and a woman’s head on my chest in a gentle embrace. The longing to once again fuck other men’s wives was almost as intense.  

 

Deep into the core of who I am I knew that I wasn’t prepared to ever give one up for the other ever again but how was I to achieve this balance that I so desired? 

I knew that the most sensible path would be to seek out genuine companionship first. Of all the options available to me OKcupid looked to be the best of a variety of imperfect solutions. Tinder wasn’t going to work for two reasons a) I think its best suited to a younger age group and b) Having to explain my ethically non-monogamous stance on dating with vanilla women would have been mentally exhausting. 

Luckily OKCupid gives you the option of stating that you a non-monogamous in your profile. That made it so much easier to reach out to women with goals and desires that are likely to be similar to my own. 

 

Boy did I get lucky!!  

About a year ago a sexy intelligent very naughty woman in her 40s reached out to me and we started seeing each other. She recently told me that she loves me and I kid you not I had goosebumps all over my body and temporarily lost the capacity to speak...........wow!!!......now where was I? 

Back when we first met because she was still relatively new to the lifestyle. Not that she needed it but I encouraged her to carry on doing what she was already doing. She was going on dates and attending swinging parties as a single woman. I made a point of not going with her at first because I wanted her to make discoveries for herself and work out what is fun and pleasurable without having to factor in how I would be feeling If I had been stood next to her at these parties. 

I naturally ensured that I was always available to give her support when needed and ensured that she was able to benefit from my advice based on years of experience as a swinger and kinkster. 

During this period, I have separately been reaching out to couples in the hope of finding one that is a good match for my current circumstances. Although I’ve had some amazing one off adventures in the past, I have now come to the conclusion that the best way to get the most out of the cuckold dynamic is to have fun with a couple that lives local enough to be able to meet up with easily. 

Finding a good match in the world of cuckolding is an agonisingly slow bittersweet process for most people but it always feels worth the wait when it finally happens. That said I haven’t exactly been idle in the meantime. My partner and me are still in the head spinning honeymoon phase of our relationship and we recently attended our first interracial swingers party together. Boy was that interesting. 

At one point I was stood at the edge of a balcony overlooking the dance floor discreetly observing my two lovers at the time both dressed as nurses introducing themselves to each other. Both were also being chatted up by very flirtatious black men. One of them like me was dress up as a doctor and the three of us later ended up in one of the private rooms. Two doctors and one nurse that is, I will tell you all about that little adventure in another blog ;-)