A Polyamorous Bi Black Bull. Is That A Thing??? Part 3 of 3

........ on the surface Katherine appeared to have every non negotiable quality that I'm looking for in a woman. Intelligence, a kind heart and an open enquiring mind both in general and sexually. Not only does she have those qualities in abundance but she appeared to have so many "nice to have" qualities too. She sounded too good to be true so I decided to be cautious but to also keep an open mind.

One of my biggest areas of concern centred around whether or not Katherine would be comfortable knowing that as our relationship developed I would still be on the look out for both couples and single ladies. Its a bit of a tricky balancing act because although I wanted to be free to meet other people another priority was to give the relationship the opportunity to grow to it full potential if  things continued to go well.

We quickly came to the conclusion that for an indefinite period we would focus on getting to know each other. So if anyone were to be a fly on the wall when we were together they would be forgiven for thinking that we were a conventional couple dating and getting to know each other. However we did still continue to have separate adventures. The only condition being that all adventures with new people would include sober conversations about sexual health so that all concerned can continue to have their cake and eat it.

Although we were not attending swinging parties together we would share information. This was in part necessary because Katherine is still relatively new to the lifestyle and I have been using the benefit of my experience to guide her so as to help ensure that her experiences are as positive as possible. As an added bonus knowing that she has been seeing other men and women is a major turn on for me. What is torment for some is for me nothing short of pure lust filled bliss. 

Perhaps more often than not any time I meet Katherine there is a strong probability that another mans cock has been inside her. Want to know how much of a turn on this is for me? Put it this way while dating Katherine there was a period of time in which I was also dating a sexy black lady. She too was in her early days of exploring swinging and ethical non-monogamy. On one particular Saturday night Daniella had attended a BMFC interracial party by herself. I wanted to be sure she was ok so I told her to text me the following morning. When she did she said that she had been a very bad girl. I told her to stop talking and that I would be at her hotel room in an hour. I forbade her from giving me any more details until my cock was inside her.

I got to her hotel room with breakfast and boy was I eager to find out what she had been up to, she was just as eager to tell me. We finished our breakfast and then I slowly began teasing her pussy with my cock. She told me about how she had danced provocatively with two black men and that by the end of the night she had fucked three complete strangers. The lust I felt as she relayed her adventure was so intense my head spun. 

I'm forever saying that I love bad girls and have no time for good girls. That's not entirely true as it's also something of a crude over simplification.

Who I crave and most desire are sexually liberated nice women. To my mind something magical happens when a woman feels free enough to unshackle herself from guilt and simply enjoys the pleasures of sex. Its truly a wonder to behold and be a part of. I think this leads neatly on to one of the reasons why I am so sexually drawn to married women. 

Not being a woman all I have to go on is a bit of clumsy empathy. But with the way society is structured to impose guilt on women I imagine it must feel incredibly liberating to be in an environment where you can let go of all inhibition and set free ones deepest and darkest sexual desires safe in the knowledge that no judgement or negative consequences result from it. It must be the most amazing feeling. Its certainly a joy to be a part of.

Dipping into what is seen as taboo is partly why I so enjoy making cuckold handle my cock when I fuck their wife/girlfriend for the first time. For me its as symbolic as it is erotic to have the male half of a couple be the one to guild my cock into the woman he so loves.

On the flip side I am besides myself with excitement at the prospect of one day soon guiding another mans cock into my girlfriend's sweet pussy. I have seen one guy fuck her at yet another BMFC party but the novelty very quickly wore off. She too has now also seen me fuck another woman at a highly erotic couples party that we recently attended. Boy was that an exciting night. Just short of a year into our relationship that crucial question has now been answered for both of us. How will we each feel at the site of seeing the other being kissed or fucked by someone else. We both passed the test and can say with confidence that compersion is now fully interwoven within our relationship.

Anyway back to the interracial party. Katherine had a wonderful time being fucked by the guy. He had a good body and fucked my lady with great vigour but because he was straight and didn't have a collaborative "work together to please the lady" mindset boredom set in quite quickly. So I politely kicked him out of the room. Because of that slight mishap we now have new guidelines in place. If we're together and she see's a guy she likes and he is straight I won't hang around but just pop in and out of the room. But if he's a bicurious cock sucker like me then all three of us will feast to our hearts content.

A Polyamorous Bi Black Bull. Is That A Thing??? Part 2 of 3

 .....so at this point you may be asking yourself how my personal circumstances have changed. Well once again I am in what I hope ends up being a long lasting relationship, the longer the better ideally. Although being single during lockdown was painful on many levels it did give me the opportunity to step back and reflect on what direction I would like my life to go in once things got back to any kind of normality.

I knew from past experience that as a single male a sex life that consisted entirely of swinging wasn't a good fit for me. I remember sometimes returning home from an adventure with a couple and although the experience would have been a lot of fun I'd sometimes be aching for a good cuddle and particularly with couples not that well known to me that need could very easily be misunderstood. Perhaps not so much in an adventure with a single lady but even then there could be room for misinterpretation. 

However, the prize for the most empty feeling without doubt would relate to nights out at a swinging club in which I felt no connection with anyone. I'd be driving home in the early hours of the morning thinking to myself  "what the fuck are you doing Danny?" boy did it feel shit.

Yet on the flip side I also know that when I've tried to live a more conventional life I would end up feeling like a part of me was suppressed and unfulfilled. Therein lies the dilemma how was I to feed and nurture both extremes. At one end is the ache for genuine companionship, affection hell even the "L" word and at the other end encoded within my DNA is my dark wickedly mischievous side and its need for an outlet to express itself. 

So there was me with a new sense of purpose on two very distinct missions. On the one hand a desire for companionship and on the other that need I have to be with another man's woman. If you have read any of my previous blogs you will know that the woman is ideally someone’s wife and that I have a strong preference for wives who enjoy being fucked by me in the presence of their husband at lease occasionally if not all the time  (even the phrase "my wife" can make my cock twitch 😈).

I updated both my dating and swinging profiles with a sense of purpose and excitement wondering which mission would bear fruit first.

Whatever couple I would eventually find certain requirement would have to be met. Priority number one they must must MUST live less than and hours drive from me. For me one of the most frustrating aspects of covid was the fact that just before lockdown I had met two amazing cuckold couples but to get to either of them it would have been a two hour illegal drive. Had either of them lived closer to home I could have conceivably had a covid safe fuck bubble and all the time in the world to get to know them 😈. 

By the way getting to know a couple well is one of the aspects of cuckolding that I really enjoy. It's a slow process and one that I like to savour. This is why I ever so regretfully swipe left mentally when approached by couples who live too far away from me even if they would otherwise be an ideal match.

For my companionship mission there are also must have qualities in any woman that I'd want to be with. Besides living reasonably local to me she would also need to be fully accepting of the more mischievous side of my sexuality. So in order to minimise awkward conversations my dating profile made it clear that I was non-monogamous. I also made a point of only swiping right if a woman's profile said the same. I'm hard wired with a sense of fair play so the more adamant a woman was about her non-monogamous mindset the more comfortable I'd feel swiping right.

That's how Katherine came into my life. She told me that one of the things that made me stand out was the fact that my profile stated that I'm looking for a woman that wants me NOT a woman that needs me. She lives a busy life and our first date was via Zoom. Although not face to face the chemistry was instant. She pointed out that she too was on a journey and that she had concluded that polyamory was the right path for her. It was very clear that although she was looking for something meaningful she had no intention making her pussy exclusive to me. She also didn't flinch when I spoke about my need to meet couples and that I am bicurious.........FUCK!!!!! I had to pinch myself......had I struck gold?.........

A Polyamorous Bi Black Bull. Is That A Thing??? Part 1 of 3

It's Monday morning and I'm now just days away from attending an interracial swingers partly with a theme that caters more closely and overtly to my sexual preferences. It’s the BMFC Bull night at Xtasia’s. It's because of the theme that I'm prepared to make the long trip......long for us Londoner anyway 🤣. Interestingly the very last time I made the trip was shortly before the first Covid lockdown back in early 2020. 

Talk about a cruel twist of fate. At the time I was just coming out of a long-term relationship. Although we would sometimes swing as a couple there were no opportunities for me to continue with my adventures as a Bull with couples. Until that last party I hadn't quite realised how much I had missed meeting couples within the cuckolding dynamic. Getting to know couples beforehand has always been a more natural approach for me and this was very much the case that night.  

I host a very discreet carefully vetted messaging app chat group that caters exclusively to swingers who enjoy interracial fun with bicurious and bisexual black men. Some of the members attended that night and I was lucky enough to have fun with two of the couples. Both were very different and that was reflected in the type of fun that I had with each one. I've gone into this in more detail in a previous blog so in this one I will just summarise. 

The first couple was the older of the two. I don't think I will ever get over the rush that I get from being able to openly flirt with another man’s wife in his presence it’s so NOT the right and proper thing to do mmmmmmm. What's also a rush is witnessing the excitement of cuckolds when they know that they don't have to keep a distance when I'm having fun with their wives. The cuckold from the slightly older couple wasted no time when we got into one of Xtasia’s private playrooms. After lots of sensual kissing we all got naked. As soon as I leant over to taste his wife's pussy the cuck went straight for my arse and started rimming me. His pent up desire to "service me" as the Bull was horny as fuck. 

With the second younger couple the dynamic was very different. We met by the edge of the dance floor and within moments the wife and me were kissing. It was instinctive and we could barely keep our hands of each other. The BDSM Dom in me sensed her submissive side but more importantly what kind of sub she was, so I gave her a task. It was to fuck as many black men as took her fancy and to come to my hotel room later that night. That she did and boy did we have fun. As a reward for being such a good sub I made one of her fantasies come true by later inviting one of the guys from my chat group into the room. Her cuckold was a bit on the shy side so he didn't get quite as involved as the first one.  

Fast forward to now it's April 2022 The BMFC (Black Mans Fan Club) party is just days away but my personal circumstances are rather different. So what will my approach be this time around? hmmmmmm....