2016 New Year reflections: Do you have to be bisexual or bicurious to be a good Bull?

I am one of those people whose brains runs at 100 miles an hour as soon as I wake up in the morning. That is when my mind goes in all kinds of directions with thoughts and ideas. More so on a day like today. The first day in the year when I always find myself feeling reflective and contemplative about the year gone and the year ahead of me.

I see life as a never ending quest with twists and turns along the way. I don't let myself get too fixated on the end goal because I feel that with that approach there is always a danger that you will miss out on the joys and pleasures of the hear and now.

It is an approach not too dissimilar to how I fuck and how someone can best please me when giving my a blow job. I never ever think about how to make a woman cum and I never enjoy being given a blow job from someone that is obviously trying to make me come. Be intuitive yes, but just enjoy and savour the act for the pleasure of doing it and in time everything sorts itself out with much more rewarding results.

It is amazing how things can take unexpected turns. In my case two things have had a big impact on my life in relation to my journey as a Bull. The event that had the biggest impact is the unexpected emotional roller coater journey I had with a a single lady that I met just over a year ago. It blew my mind and I am still feeling the ripple effects. It was a very interesting learning experience. 

To this day I am still processing the impact it has had on me but one thing is for sure. I do now stand back every now and then to assess what is important to me and what makes me happy as an individual. In this context the ultimate questions are... will I forever be living the life of a Bull for cuckold couples. Will I settle down with a single lady or will I somehow combine the two? I don't yet know the answer to these questions. However the fact that I am now even contemplating multiple scenarios is interesting within itself as far as I am concerned.

The second thing that has had a big impact on me this year is my decision to embrace my bi side without any sense of shame, or discomfort. If you have read any of my previous blogs you will know that until I got into cuckolding and even with my many years of swinging behind me I was never conscious of a bi side that needed embracing. Previously if guys got too close to me in any kind of swinging situation. I would sometimes have to focus hard so as not to be put off and loose my erection. Fast forward to today and I almost feel like insisting that husbands give my cock a good suck or slip me into their wife before I fuck them lol. I jest but you get the point.

Once I realised that this was a part of my sexuality I had a decision to make. Do I do what most guys  with a closet bi side do. Deny it publicly but get up to all kinds in secret. Or do I embrace it? Now don't get me wrong i am not going to harshly judge anyone keeping this side to them a secret. Especially in the context of swinging. On swinging sites single males often outnumber couples and single ladies. So competitive as it is, for many guys it it not in their interest to say anything that might reduce their chances of meeting people to have fun with.

I too had to take that into account and as a black man it could be argued that among other black guys in the scene it could be frowned upon. So I had a decision to make, what would the fallout be, would friends and associate in the scene turn their backs on me and crucially would it result in less opportunities to meet sexy like minded ladies?

Casual scans of profiles on the swinging site I use the most FabSwingers.com reveal many profiles by couples that say "No bi men". On the flip side I often encounter profiles that say no straight men. The funny thing is, many couples profiles say that the guy is straight but they happily discuss the prospect of giving my cock a good suck when chatting to me.

Although it doesn't phase me if people describe me as bisexual. I don't regard it as an accurate description of myself. FetLife.com the fetish site I sometimes use allows for a more accurate description of how I see myself and that is Hetroflexible. However, if the day ever comes when I look into another man's eyes, get lost in them and feel an overwhelming urge to go on romantic walks with him you will be the first to know.

So back to the title of this blog. Do you have to be bi to be a good Bull? The answer to that question is no. Does it help? In my case and because I am particularly interested in cuckold couples, without a doubt having a flexible approach to my sexuality has worked very much in my favour. On balance I am convinced that it has opened more doors than it has closed. Am I having more fun as a result? 

Hell yes ;-)

How I seduced a virgin white couple at an interracial swingers party P/T 2

.....the three of us walked into what was a very small dimly lit room but there was more than enough room for the three of us. There was a little bit of small talk but none of us wanted to waste time so we all stripped while chatting.

Although I am a naturally dominant by nature I strongly believe in allowing couples to acclimatise to the situation particularly when meeting me for the first time. I know that for some people the fantasy of an all guns blazing first time cuckolding session might sound like fun. But in my opinion, more often than not the priority should be to get used to each other and establish a level of trust first. Besides, isn't it always better to have something to look forward to?

My instincts told me to take a little step back and give each other the space to feel comfortable and get in the mood. They got onto the bed and Steve promptly attended to Sally's pussy with his mouth. After a short while I climbed onto the bed too and began to caress her soft white skin. The dim lighting of the room added to the sense of intimacy and eroticism of the situation. She turned her head towards me and caressed my chest at which point we began to kiss. I think this got Steve very excited because he started to fuck her. A big no no in my book as I never let cuckolds fuck their lady in my presence without requesting my permission. However as stated previously I do sometimes make an allowance for new couples.

I took the opportunity to reposition myself and slip my cock into Sally's mouth. Fully aware that with Steve now fucking her he would be getting a close up view of his partner’s lips and tongue navigating the contours of my hard black cock. As he thrusted he looked on with fascination. I knew exactly what he hoped for at this point. So I told him that as a cuckold it was his duty to serve me and show respect by sucking my cock. They both looked at each other and asked the other if it was ok to take this bold step for the very first time.

Both were fine so Sally pointed my cock towards Steve’s face. He slipped his mouth around my hard shaft without even the slightest bit of hesitation.........fuck!!! Having guys suck my cock in front of their wife or girlfriend gives me an almightily rush. Even as I type this my cock is throbbing and I can feel pre-cum oozing into my boxers. Both their lips slid along my ebony meat and occasionally their lips met....damn horny.

Unfortunately for Steve it was again all a bit too much so he had to stop fucking Sally and back down. I told him it was now time for me to take over. Normally at this point I would have instructed the cuckold to grab a condom and put it on my cock. But on this occasion I was way too eager to fuck his beloved partner and didn't want to risk nervous inexperienced hands trying to put a condom on me. I did however pause to ensure that his hand gripped my cock and that he would be the one to guide me into his lady for the very first time. To me it is a very important symbolic moment and I wanted him to play a part in it.

As is often the case and especially when I fuck a woman for the first time I teased Sally for a while before giving her the full length of my cock. Just the tip at first. Pausing from time to time and ever so gradually giving her a bit more of me. Her pussy responded by naturally lubricating the pathway. I have flexible hips so when I finally gave her my full length in a single authoritative thrust she gasped with pleasure.

What a night, we fucked in various positions, at one point with Sally riding me. I often struggle with lying down to let a woman do that. In part because it is such a horny site, my instinct is to throw a woman back down onto the bed and fuck with maximum intensity. I  just can't lay still, so I find myself thrusting my hips upwards looking into the woman's eyes and telling her to fuck me. Probably not the most dominant thing to say but it seems to spur women on......oh what a sight, Sally rode my rigid cock with so much enthusiasm mmmmmm. From time to time she would slow down to give Steve a passionate kiss. Oh how I love that, meeting couples in a committed relationship is that little bit more pleasurable. It is certainly a key element of what I refer to as real cuckolding.

After a bit more pleasurable grinding Sally dismounted and lay down to be fucked once more by Steve. Again the naughtiness of the experience was a bit too much for him so he had to stop again after not that many thrusts. More for me ;-)

Again I took over and began to fuck Sally with relish. Between the two of them they talked excitedly about my spunk so I knew it would soon be time for me back up my king of cum claims. After a while I told Sally that I was ready to cum and that I was about to spurt my full creamy load. I pulled my cock out and quickly removed the condom......just in time. Oh the joy of fucking another mans dear lady in front of them. I erupted and blasted my creamy load all over Sally's stomach and tits. Roaring with pleasure at the delicious wickedness of it all.

As I moved off the bed Steve didn't even hesitate to reclaim his dearest Sally. He got right on top of her not the least bit concerned about the fact that my sticky deposit was all over her body. Another good indicator of Steve's openness to experiment with his inner cuckold perhaps?

They fucked briefly and then lay happily on the bed before asking me if I wouldn't mind giving them a moment to themselves before joining me outside. I explained that I fully understood and that I would chat with them again a little later.

I spent the rest of the night socialising and being a bit of a voyeur. After all there is always something interesting to see at BMFC. When I next saw Steve and Sally they were sat on a sofa by the dance floor. As we chatted they did whet they have now been doing almost daily since that night we met almost two weeks ago. They expressed there happiness in having met me, thanked me for putting them so much at ease and for making their night such a pleasurable one. I am really enjoying getting to know this couple and looking forward to guiding them down the path of darkness.....the pleasurable kind.

How I seduced a virgin white couple at an interracial swingers party P/T 1

Although busy swinging clubs are not personally my preferred way of meeting new couples I do love socialising in an environment with like minded people. When in that frame of mind BlackManFanClub commonly known as BMFC is one of my favourite events to attend.  It is run by a lady that I have known for years and although our paths don't cross as often as they did in the early years it is always a pleasure to see her.

BMFC events are held every weekend in a number of locations around the country. Being the first Saturday of the month I knew that it would be their busiest night and at a venue which is my personal favourite. It is a fairly large venue with several places to have fun. Including a cinema room, dark zones, private areas, a glory hole room and big open play areas so most tastes are catered to.

I arrived at 9.30 knowing that a couple of friend and familiar faces would be attending. For the first hour or so most of my attention was on them. Although naturally I would survey the horizon from time to time, admiring the women in their sexy outfits. As the night developed a nice looking couple sat in a corner caught my eye. I looked over a number of times and couldn't believe that none of the other guys appeared to have approached them.

I made up my mind sat beside the lady and introduced myself to them. We struck up a conversation and Sally and Steve revealed that they were brand new swingers hoping to have their very first adventure. It was their third visit to a BMFC event but up until now they had not felt brave enough or felt the right connection with anyone to make that leap from fantasy to reality. New couples are often unsure of swinging etiquette so I gave them some guidance, reassurances and the benefit of my experience in terms of how to interact with single males.

Once we had built up a nice rapport I asked them what had drawn them to swinging in the first place and what they were hoping to get out of it. They told me that they had been watching interracial cuckold porn together for several months and that it had began to feature in their fantasies quite often when they were having sex. At that point I got an instant hard on and a switch in my head changed from gentleman to wolf.

As it was a large U shaped sofa and they were sitting in a corner it had been easy for me to focus my attention on the two of them when conversing. I now sat closer with my knee pressed gently into Sally's thigh. She didn't flinch and the body language from both her and Steve was still positive.

I probed them further with more questions in order to establish if there interests leaned more toward cuckolding or hot-wifing. They were not aware of the differences between the two so I was more than happy to explain. Steve explained that in daily life he was in a position of authority and had a deep desire to be dominated. Sally on the other hand had no intention of being told what to do. This put them very firmly in the cuckold camp and the evil wolfish grin on my face left them in no doubt that I liked what I was hearing.

Typical of so many newbie couples their black man fantasy included a desire for Sally to be fucked by a black man with a really big cock. I promptly explained that as a Bull with an average size cock I would not be able to make that particular fantasy come true but that on the flip side I was a hard spurting heavy cum king. That I had a sturdy black cock that could be used like training wheels for good practice  That got us all laughing and relaxed them even further.

When I explained that I generally use swinging parties to network and don't usually fuck, they both looked at me like Puss in Boots in Shrek. so I found myself reassuring them that if an opportunity presented itself that night and they felt relaxed enough I would be more than happy to oblige......hey being patient is one thing but sometimes you just have to strike while the iron is still hot.

After a short while Sally got up to use the ladies. Steve used it as an opportunity to ask If I would join them in one of the private rooms. I said that I would be more than happy to but also assured him that if at any point they had second thoughts I would back off gracefully, even if we were all naked and my cock was merely an inch away from Sally's pussy. He found that reassuring. However I also gave him a warning by informing him that as a cuckold once we got into the room I would be expecting him to submit to my authority by sucking my cock. He advised me that he would love to but as they were new to this he wasn't quite sure how Sally would react. However, he said that if it was initiated by me she would be more likely to go with it.

On Sally's return Steve informed her about our conversation. She liked what she heard but asked if I wouldn't mind if she popped out for a quick smoke first. Probably nerves I thought. Once she returned we headed for a  narrow corridor where two lockable rooms were located. As we waited I took the opportunity to take a better look at Sally......fuck!!! I thought. All dressed in black, tight black jeans, black heels and a tight black top that pushed her tits out towards me. How I managed to  stay looking calm and collected I don't know.

At this point I think Steve's natural cuckold instincts began to kick in. He offered to get us all a drink from the bar while we waited for a room to become vacant. Cuckold or not if any couple hopes to increase the chances of having a successful encounter with a single male, in my opinion they should always find a way for the male to conveniently disappear for a while so that the lady and single male can get a little more comfortable with each others company. While Steve was away we chatted a little but it was only on his return that I touched her waist and told her how deliciously sexy she was looking. This led to them embracing in a kiss......perfect.

Finally we heard the sound of one of the rooms being unlocked. At which point I began to mentally rub my hands together with glee......