This Is Why You Can't Fuck My Girlfriend If You're Straight

You probably wouldn't be surprised to discover that my desire to fuck other men's wives' and girlfriends is deep and to my core. However it may surprise you to know that my desire to see my girlfriend fucked by other guys is also deep rooted. Hell as the years have passed this desire has grown stronger. So much so that it's in danger of matching my lusts and cravings as a Bull. Come to think of it I probably enjoy both scenarios all the more because I can relate to the pleasure from more than one perspective.

However there is a bit of a catch, based on past experiences its just not as much fun for me if the man fucking my lady is straight. My apologies if this comes across as a bit harsh and overly simplistic but broadly speaking straight guys tend to fall into one of two camps. Naturally there is always going to be a bit of an overlap but here goes.

CAMP ONE

This camp is populated by the outwardly nervous straight guy. This guy doesn't really want me in the room but for the chance of a fuck he's willing to give it a go and will try to use a few mental tricks to zone me out and pretend I'm not there. He may be concerned that I'm eying him up and trying to figure out a way to pounce on him. So because of this concern he is never totally at ease and will struggle to stay in the moment and enjoy the sweet pleasures of my sexy girlfriend. I consider myself to be a bit of an empath and because I will sense this I too will struggle to be in the moment because I will then be using strategies of my own to try to put him at ease.

CAMP TWO

This camp is populated by the outwardly confident and alpha males. This guy doesn't really want me in the room either but his motives are a little different. He wants to fully unleash his lusts on my lady and will feel somewhat held back by my presence. For the time that he is in the room he wants her to himself and the idea of "sharing" doesn't come naturally to him. His natural instinct is to also mark his presence by showing both of us who's boss. This too will be sensed by me so instead of enjoying the experience my competitive instincts will kick in and the whole experience will be ruined because in those scenarios I will cut things short and that's no fun for anyone.

I think I should take the time to hold my hand up and take some responsibility for the above type of scenarios. They have only ever happened in a club environment where adrenaline can be high and decisions can sometimes be made on impulse. In my ideal world we've had a chance to meet socially to first find out if we're likely to be a good match. 

CAMP THREE (the exception to the rule)

Yep you guessed it the title of this blog is click bait lol. Straight guys have fucked my partners over the years but they will have been people that we've got to know so everyone feels comfortable relaxed and horny.

It's so much more fun when they're bi!!!

Why? Because even if there is no play between the guys the vibe is almost always so much more relaxed. No-one is tense or worried about body parts touching and there is no sense of competition so working together as a team to give pleasure to my sweet lady just feels more natural and instinctive.

It also means I can get really close for a good view of another mans cock sliding in and out of my lady's pussy which more likely than not will be soaking wet because she is as turned on by the thought of being very naughty in front of me as I am proud to have a card carrying slut as a lover. That image can replay and  remain vivid in my head for weeks and boy is it horny as fuck.

The guy being bi means I'm free to stroke his cock and guide him back in if he slips out and I can cup his balls while whispering filth into my girlfriends ear.

Another perk of MMF threesomes is that there is never ever the whisper of beginning to feel like a third wheel. Although I can be a perfectly respectful voyeur (and enjoy it) when watching other couples fuck waiting patiently on the sidelines as a voyeur makes me restless when its my own girlfriend I just can't do it. So if the guy inside her has stamina and the two of them get lost in the moment I always have the option of keeping my cock warm with his mouth. For some strange inexplicable reason guys tend to fuck with a greater sense of urgency when I do that ;-)

Desire vs fetishization – My take when its interracial

Maybe it’s all in my imagination but these days we seem to be living in a world of tribalistic extremes. Something that makes absolutely no sense to me because there is nothing more complex than the mind of a human being.

My sex life has often had an interracial dynamic but I am always aware that there is sometimes a delicate balance to be had and I am mindful not to inadvertently fetishize someone with a background different to my own or indeed put myself in situations where I feel fetishized.

I love what feels safe and familiar some things need not be communicated verbally…….you just know. But I am also forever curious about what makes us all different. When I watched a white guy fuck my ex I found it sexy as fuck and I tapped into my wank bank streaming service for weeks afterwards.

On the flip side when a guy guides my cock into his lady and her skin complexion is different to mine it’s sexy as fuck when all three of us get to admire the contrast as I slide in and out of her special yummy place. That curiosity for something different has certainly played a role in my non-monogamous sexual journey over the years. However on the flip side because I’m repelled by fetishization I was and never will be the “perfect” swinger. Even before I heard the word I have always drifted in the direction that could lead to polyamory and shied away from ONS whenever possible.

It's easy to side-step the extreme end of fetishization because the tell-tale signs soooooo blatantly obvious. With the more subtle levels it not so easy but in my experience pausing, not making assumptions and taking the time to get to know a person always helps.

Sex Gas Masks and Post Covid Cuddles

A cock a gimp and a care bear walked into a bar......there's a joke in there somewhere I just know there is 😂.

Anyway this is going to be one of my slightly unusual somewhat reflective curveball postings...

Just over a week ago I was in a cafe sat opposite to a married woman and flirting with the intention meeting her at a hotel on our second encounter. It was a hot day and she was wearing a summer dress and oh boy do I love admiring women wearing summer dresses. I made little to no effort to hide the fact that my gaze sometimes lingered on her chest and oh so yummy looking thighs.  However in spite of my addiction for married women I had no intention of fucking her. Now you'd be forgiven for being confused at this point but here's the thing.

When covid hit and we were all in lockdown I was not long out of a serious relationship, and I had just managed to make a really good connection with not one but two amazing cuckold couples. However, in a cruel twist of fate neither of them was local to me and long story short it led to what at first was an agonising 18 month period of enforced celibacy.

Once I had got to the point of "accepting my fate" I actually got quite used to the isolation. I was also very much mindful and aware of the fact that soo many people and families suffered terribly at this time. I myself focused on developing other areas of my life and quite enjoyed the isolation. The pause from the rat race was in many ways good for me and luckily for me feeling of loneliness were quite rare. However, whenever it did occur it was like a punch to the gut and the desire that dominated all others was the desire for cuddles. It even overpowered my lust for other men's wives and boy did that take me by surprise.

Lockdown got me thinking about the second world war and although I didn't do any deep research into the topic it got me wondering if that period of time was the birth place of the gas mask fetish. Did 2020 give birth to a cuddles fetish? I wonder what history will say.

I have always been a cuddles kinda guy but in a swinging context I have always been a little bit hesitant to cuddle as much as I would like for fear of my intentions being misread as romantic in the conventional sense of the word. I suppose its a bit like kissing someone's wife/girlfriend a bit too long it just looks weird and it can create unnecessary discomfort and tension. So I'd only ever kiss beyond the point of acceptable etiquette if the partner is a cuckold oh and the kiss would last even longer if I'm making him watch while sucking my cock mmmmmmmmmm. Got a bit carried away there.........now where was I?

Ah yes back to the topic at hand. During lockdown I did get into the odd conversation with women and like me some of them did indeed have the same ache to meet just for cuddles. So although it was never acted upon it did get me thinking. Just as having a Fuck Buddy or Friends With Benefits is seen as a complication free way to connect sexually. Couldn't a Cuddle Buddy serve a similar...ish role?

Its hilarious but I think I feel more self conscious coming out of the closet as a cuddles craver than I did as a Bull that also has deep cravings to suck cock. But it is was it is, covid unlocked a need in me that is greater than I realised and I feel a responsibility to be true and honest with myself just as much as I did when it dawned on me that I wasn't heterosexual.

Anyway lets transport ourselves back to my coffee with the married woman. At first things went really well we'd spent the best part of two hours in Costa chatting and enjoying each others company. However when dropping her home in the privacy of my car she admitted that her real agenda was to find men she felt comfortable enough to fuck as well as snuggle with for hours. 

Something switched in my brain. When I know a woman is "naughty" I'm like a moth to a flame. I instantly got horny and my cock was now pressing slightly painfully against my jeans. What should have been a friendly good bye kiss on the cheek ended up as a very passionate kiss I was soooooo ready to fuck at that point...........damn it!!

This may sound weird and you may be thinking "what the fuck are you crazy?" but in my quest for a genuine cuddle buddy I don't want penetrative sex to be on the agenda. I wrestled for a few days but then ultimately decided that it would be best not to take things further with the lady. Yes in the heat of the moment I'd probably go with the flow but on the flip side I don't want a cuddle buddy who is secretly feeling flustered and frustrated if a fuck isn't the final outcome. A sensual tease for some is something to be savored but for others it feels like vindictive torture. That's reason number one for deciding not to meet her again. Reason number two, I class myself as Ethically Non-Monogamous so although over the years I have fucked (polite cough) my fair share of other men's wives and girlfriends with relish it has never knowingly been without their consent, blessing or encouragement. 

Although I wouldn't throw a tantrum if a cuddle buddy transitioned into a FWB. I'm  still very specific in my desire for a platonic...ish cuddle buddy to bond with on a deep level too. I see it as one of several interesting ways to connect with a woman and I always love an adventure.

My quest continues.