Race and prejudice from a swinging black man's perspective p/t 2 of 2

As mentioned previously, in my life as a swinger I have always been aware of race but from my perspective it has always played a minor role in my mind when looking for people to have fun with.

Even now when it does play a bigger part in my selection process I am conscious of not inadvertently turning myself into something of a hypocrite. So a certain amount of self analysis and juggling may be required.  What do I mean by that? Well previously there were certain traits that I was always wary of. So I was and still am cautious at first when a couple or single lady indicates that they are looking for a big black man with a big cock. I don't like the feeling that I am merely a prop in someones fantasy. However on the flip side isn't everyone's starting point based on a fantasy? So as with most things in life a certain amount of balance is required.

I could be generalizing, but the impression I get is that couples would always prefer to meet a black man with the body of an Olympic sprinter and a porn star sized cock, especially the husbands lol. I am neither of these things. Which in a strange way is a good thing. Were I 6ft plus and the proud owner of a 8" plus cock I think I would always be wondering at the back of my mind if the person I was fucking was purely fixated on how I looked and had no interest in me as a person. Having said that. I do make the most of what I have by eating reasonably well and exercising to maintain my stamina and fitness levels. I consider this my duty as a Bull. If Bulls had a mission statement what would it be? lolol

Anyway, with me being a 5ft6" male with a 6.5" cock, almost by definition the people I have met do not have that same rigid fixation in their mind. They are also looking a little deeper and have an interest in some of my other qualities too. Yes the majority have a strong preference for black men but alongside that they want to meet a black man that although naughty knows when to be a gentleman and when to take control and do what comes naturally.Over the years I have spoken to black guys that fit the above description and can confirm that some of them do have similar thoughts to myself.

So in what context do I find myself wondering if I am crossing the line into prejudice and stereotyping and being careful not to? In the weird and wonderful world of cuckoldry. I adore women of all shades but when it comes to the would of cuckoldry. To really get my attention the couple has to be white and married. Plus the higher up the social class ladder they are the better......and then it dawned on me. 

After speaking online at great length to the stunning married Russian woman I found myself thinking in much the same way I have in the past. That her being white had very little significance in my mind. I just wanted her because she was hot.

Perhaps being a Bull to a cuckold couples is one of those things greater than the sum of all its parts. Individually each component not that significant. But when all put together something powerful happens. For me three of those components are the marital, racial and cultural background of the couple. With the right number of taboo boxes ticked, it tips over and something deep, raw and powerful happens. I crave it with a passion.

Meeting a cuckold couple tonight P/T 3 of 3

So here I am in the home of a married white couple sat on a sofa adjacent to them. Ed is sat closest to me and his wife Diane is sat next to him. Prior to meeting I had indicated my preference of what kind of dress the Diane would be wearing. I asked the Ed to help his Diane pick out a dress that looked elegant yet sexy. I wanted her to look like a respectable wife. Now don’t get me wrong I love the site of a woman in hot provocative outfits. I call them “fuck me” dresses. But as a Bull meeting a couple for potentially ongoing pleasure I think it is better to take ones time and move at a steady pace. Besides which I get an extra special thrill when flirting with a woman that looks unattainable and no woman looks more unattainable than a respectable married women ;-)

So what did Diane have on? A sexy elegant black dress fully fashioned stockings with a black line going all the way up the back of her legs and black high heels. A classic sexy look that never fails to impress me and I made it very clear to both husband and wife that I was very impressed with the choice they had made for my benefit.

One thing I hear time and time again from couples is a dislike of pushy overbearing guys. Fortunately that is not in my nature, although I do have to be a little delicate when getting couples to prove they are genuine and that the wife is happy with the situation. I am aware that it can be perceived as being pushy when I ask a couple to prove they are real either by chatting on the phone with the wife or having a skype style chat with the wife present.

Anyway we spent the next half an hour or so having a normal get to know you conversation and touched upon some of our experiences in the world of swinging. All the while I made a point of being inclusive of both Ed and Diane  but every now and then I would look at the lovely Diane in the eyes. Always for just a little bit too long and always letting my eyes drop slowly and obviously down the length of her sexy body. I eventually moved to sit next to her and my timing must have been right because her had went directly to my thigh. She started rubbing up and down and occasionally touching my bulge while kissing both myself and Ed mmmmmm.

She then said she was uncomfortable on the sofa and suggested that we head for the marital bed. Oh how I love fucking married women in their own beds. I told her to lead the way and to walk slowly up the stairs so that I could get a good view of her sexily climbing towards the bedroom......and that is where details of this particular account ends but lets just say. We will be meeting again ;-)

Race and prejudice from a swinging black man's perspective P/T 1 of 2

Morning , One thing about me is that I am always thinking and analyzing. Some might argue that I over think and to a certain extent they might be right. But I enjoy it and I see it as an important part of my growth as a human being.

Anyway, when I woke up this morning I found myself going over a conversation that I had with a married white woman into the early hours. I wondered...yet again about the role race place in the world of swinging and cuckold, hot-wife fun in particular. My thoughts my be in danger of going off in all kinds of directions so please bear with me if I appear to ramble.

As a black man living in a white country it would be impossible not to have given racism a lot of thought. Also as a father I consider it my duty to prepare my children for what they will have to confront as they get older.

In my opinion racists are a rare breed but prejudice is everywhere and within all of us. Where does racism come from? I think it is the end result of prejudice when left unchallenged and is fed watered and nurtured by thoughts and ones environment. It can be a conscious act or perhaps more dangerously it can come from a perspective of self denial.

I always laugh when people say they don’t have a prejudiced bone in their body. To that I always argue then that person must love friends and strangers as much as their own family, which of course is nonsense. Prejudice is natural. Without it the tribalism around football teams would not exist.

So what do I do about it on a personal level? Well I long ago saw the link between thoughts and how they affect your daily interactions with people. For example when I’m hungry I’m a mean son of a bitch. But when fed and watered you could almost call me a card carrying pacifist lol

So anyway as a black man living in the UK I don’t go about in my daily life when dealing with people thinking ohh she is white, he is Asian etc etc. I am aware of it but it doesn't occupy my thoughts. Why because I firmly believe that if you have that kind of internal narration it affects how you deal with that person. It matters not if you think you are not verbalising it, those thoughts will always leak out one way or another. I can often tell when dealing with people when the person is focused too much on what I look like. The signs are so obvious and it makes me laugh to myself when people think they are able to mask it lol

It is my belief that even in this so called modern world we are not that different from animals and can all sense this even if not consciously aware.

For example. If I was to go to a job interview thinking. I’m going to be interviewed by a panel of white people...damn I’m not going to get this job. That vibe even if not verbalised would be sensed subconsciously by that panel and would very likely turn into a self fulfilling prophecy.

There is only one environment where try as I might I just can't shake a feeling of uneasiness and that is in the company of the police. I have nothing to hide and can rationalize as much as I like but just can't fully shake off that feeling. I have to consciously challenge my perceptions but it is not an easy task for me. I'm sure that the flip side is also true. Be it among some members of the police or non blacks who are simply not used to being around black people. However as I mentioned earlier. Being aware of this thought process is a very important step in combating the negative impact prejudice can have on ones thinking when left unchecked

So what role has race played in my life as a swinger? Up until recently, very little, I have been swinging on and off for years and the colour of the people I met was of very little importance to me. I merely celebrated the differences.

What has changed? Will let you know in part two ;-)