Once a Bull always a Bull?

So here I am beginning yet another chapter in my love life and sexual adventures. In the previous chapter I was in a deeply loving relationship with a most wonderful woman. Highly intelligent, sexy a joy to be with and a true friend. In fact we still are friends but the dynamic of us living together in a committed loving relationship ran its course. As a non-monogamous relationship, it meant we both got to indulge in some rather naughty adventures together.

As I reflect on it I’m so relieved by the fact that sexual jealousy resulting from our lifestyle was not the reason that the relationship came to an end. That for me is a source of reassurance, reassurance in that I feel yet more confident that when with the right woman it is indeed possible for me to be in a loving relationship and still have the ability to express my sexuality with persons other than my loving partner whoever that might be in the months and years to come.

However although the relationship was non-monogamous in nature compromises were made on both sides so as to ensure that feelings were not hurt. Some adaptions were easy, others over time and in retrospect were somewhat more challenging. At the time I was ok with it but there is one particular compromise that I’m not sure I will be able to make again. I may find myself eating my words at some point but right now I doubt it.

So what was that compromise? Well it was the ability to meet couples by myself. Foursomes are great fun but with the way my mind works there is something particularly and ever so wickedly pleasurable about planning to meet a couple as a single male.

I am forever drawn in by the lure of other men’s wives and girlfriends. This box was opened years ago and trying to close it again would just be an exercise in futility. Oh and just in case this is the first blog of mine that you are reading. Please be aware that I’m not one of those guys that gets a kick out of stealing people girlfriends or sleeping with married women as a danger sport. Clandestine fucks just isn’t my thing, I can most certainly understand the thrill, its just not my thrill.

The thrill for me is very particular to the fact that one way or another everyone is involved and getting something out of it. Its a three-way mind fuck that for me is intoxicatingly delicious….and addictive. I love witnessing the liberating effect on a woman when she is free to express her sexuality without judgement from the man that matters most to her in her life. As a Bull I get to be with a woman when she is at the peak of  feeling free, sexy and desired….and as a man who has been in open relationships I have a keen sense of what it feels like to be the man witnessing his loved one being fucked by another man.

Now don’t get me wrong I’m no angel so if a hot cheating wife or girlfriend were to relentlessly pursue me, theoretically wouldn’t say no but the thrill of biting into juicy forbidden fruit just wouldn’t be there…....wow as I type this and think back over the experiences that I have had with women I can’t think of a single time that I have knowingly fucked a married woman without her husband being fully aware of the fact……hmmmm interesting. 

So what’s next. Here’s me single again and pondering what path to follow, what’s my highest priority at this point. Build another special relationship with someone, try to quench my insatiable thirst for another man’s wife/girlfriend or somehow get the best of both worlds?

The latter sounds like the best fit for me right now and that’s exactly what I have been doing. Besides chatting with potential couples on FabSwingers I have also joined a rather interesting new site called Hotwifing that focuses primarily on pairing hotwife couples with single males/Bulls like me. It has a lot of potential so I am going to be keeping a close eye on it as it grows.

Perhaps in my next blog I will talk in detail about the two sexy wives that I met at an interracial swinging event a few weeks ago. Both encounters were deliciously naughty and in two very different ways. 

With one the sexual chemistry between us was so unbearably intense it was almost like self-inflicted torture. Up until that night all of my communications had been with her husband online. However all of my communications with him had been fairly abstract and I only had a vague idea of what his wife was like.

When we finally got to meet that night as soon as our eyes met there was instant chemistry which for me is quite unusual. The three of us were chatting and I just knew I had to kiss her. So I did, I’m not even sure if I asked for permission on this occasion the chemistry was that potent. There are two things that I do remember quite clearly though. I whispered two very romantic things in her ear while caressing her neck. I remember telling her that I would fuck her that night….and I also remember telling her to fuck any black guys that takes her fancy and to come to my hotel room with her husband before the night is out. I will tell you all about what happened in one of my future blogs.

From straight Bull to Club Biversity cock sucking bisexual interracial party host? WTF?? P/T 2 of 2

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From straight Bull to Club Biversity cock sucking bisexual interracial party host? WTF?? P/T 1 of 2

I'm holding my breath, crossing my fingers and touching wood for good luck. In just a few days I will finally find out if my experiment has worked. To the best of my knowledge no one has ever hosted a swinging party that focuses primarily on bi and bi curious single black men and the swingers that want to have fun with them.

Yes there are bisexual parties and yes there are interracial parties but to the best of my knowledge the two have never been combined. Why is that? Based on my past experiences as a Bull I am convinced that the demand is out there. Back when I was still single I would be contacted on an almost daily bases by couples almost desperate to meet black men who are ok with having their cock sucked by the male half of a couple too. Bi and especially cuckold couples would complain to me in frustration about the fact that the black guys they were seeing wouldn't entertain the thought of taking things to the next level.

For me this was great. My swinging profile made it clear that I was happy to be serviced by cuckolds and to ensure that nothing was left to doubt, I changed my profile picture to one that showed me having my cock sucked by a masked cuckold. Were it not for the fact that most couples contacting me lived miles from London I would have had a lot more encounters than I did. As you may know from previous blogs that was a major source of frustration for me at the time.

Fast forward to the present, as one half of a couple that swings the situation has changed to a very different dynamic. We're both swingers but some of our tastes differ. She feel more at ease when we have fun with single guys and my preference is to have fun with other swinging couples both straight and bi. One of the ways we compromise is to never knowingly have fun with single guys unless they are bi curious. Everyone involved gets to suck cock and my girlfriend gets to have DP and DVP fun, both of which make her insanely horny.

Another area in which our preferences differ is that the idea of private and hotel meets with swingers makes her very nervous. However for me as a long time swinger it feels much more natural. When I first started swinging, clubs did not dominate the swinging landscape the way they do now. Most swingers got together at private parties and hotels.

This brings me back to some of the inspirations behind the birth of Club Biversity. One being the fact that I wanted to find a more effective way for us to get to know more like minded swinging couples.

Another and very important motivation behind the creation of Club Biversity is the fact that guys having fun with each other at swinging clubs is heavily frowned upon. Now don't get me wrong. There are a lot of open-minded swingers out there. However there are enough swingers with prejudices to make it impossible to relax completely as a bi or bi curious male when attending swinging clubs and events. Even on so called bi nights at clubs guys have come up to me with something negative to say when they have seen guys sucking or fucking each other......seriously????

Anyway, I didn't truly appreciate how on guard I was at conventional swinging parties until the first time I attended a monthly bi night that actively vetted the guests to ensure that only bisexual males got an invite.

FUCK!!!!!!!!

That was a night of revelations and one that I will never forget.......