Aren't you a little short to be a Bull? Part 3 of 3

As hinted at one of the couples at the party I organised had asked if it would be ok to stay the night. It was a suggestion that I was more than happy with because during the party itself I was in host mode and not the least bit horny. I just wanted to be sure that everyone invited had a good time. 

I had invited a black Domme friend to help host, four other bi leaning black Bulls and four couples. I already knew all of the four couples who accepted my party invitation and of the four I already knew three of the women.....biblically ;-). Although I didn't know the Bulls as well as the couples I had been in conversation with them for quite a while and was confident that they were the kind of black men who would represent themselves favourably. 

Hosting a successful party and ensuring that everyone had a good time was my priority that night and because I knew two of the couples particularly well I knew that even if I didn't get to fuck that night I would soon after.

I need not have worried.

I kicked everyone out at around 3am so now it was just me and the bi couple. Oh by the way two of the couples had bi males and the other two were cuckold males. That's why I had carefully vetted the invited Bulls to ensure that they were at least bi curious.

Anyway we settled into one of the beds together chatted about how sussesful the party had been and then I started to kiss Rose. I always love kissing her she's so good with her mouth so I'm quite addicted. Her husband Jim loves stroking my cock. So he wet his hand and a bit and got to work caressing my shaft and gently wanking me off mmmmmmm.

Because of the trust and openness between us whenever we've met we've know when I need to use a condom and when not to. This was to be one of those rare times when no condom was required. Jim loves teasing Rose's pussy with my cock and I quite like it too ;-) I get so worked up I start leaking precum. You don't see the droplets for long though because I'm now slowly dipping my helmet in her oh so wet sounding pussy.

By this point we're all making pleasurable moaning noises. I'm loving the fact that both of them are closely observing my cock and we are all relishing the asthetics of our contrasting skin colour. It feels so good being inside Rose while Jim gently caresses my balls. After a while the teasing is too much for Jim so he puts his hand on my arse and gently pushes me all the way into his wife mmmmmmm.

He then went to the other end of the bed and sliped his cock im his wife's mouth. As mentioned before Jim's cock is both long and thick and has the effect of intimidating some of the black guys that they have met. Not me though. I thought his cock looked amazing in his wife's mouth. So much so that I felt compelled to suck it. I wrestled with the idea for a few minites. But in the end I thought "fuck why not"

So now not only was I fucking Rose bareback but I was also kissing her and sucking and licking her husbands cock with her too. Man what a sweet mind fuck that was for me mmmmm.

Now because Of Jim's size Rose always has to be brace her self and feel ready before she lets him inside her. So when they go to swinging events she doesn't let him fuck her until she feels that she has had her share of fun. That point came and Rose asked me to cum inside her. By this point I no longer had Jim's cock in my mouth. He was somewhere to the side of us and it was just Rose and me passionately kissing and fucking. Fuck she's good...talking to me with that soft sexy voice until I  erupted inside her. When I pulled out Jim wasted no time and excitedly slipped his cock in his sexy wife. The voyeur in me drank it all in. Both were obviously feeling horny as fuck and Jim was particularly turned on by the fact that my creamy load was sloshing around his cock and providing more than  ample lubrication as he fucked his wife. He finally gasped with pleasure shot his load and eventually flopped to the side of the bed too.

Jim kept going on about how good it felt to fuck Rose with my cum inside her. Fuck I though...I know were safe today so why not make the most of it I thought. Long story short we both took turns having sloppy secounds. Its a while ago now so I don't remember if either of us came in Rose again that night. But her pussy was so full of cum lubrication it wouldn't have made a difference. 

I will never forget that night. Its memorable because of the shear lustful filth between us and from my perspective because it was the night I because a card carrying cock sucker.

So back to the original question in this blog. Does size matter? 

Yes....

and no

Its vaugue I know but also true. Its better to ask yourself that question. Does size matter to you? If the answer is yes yes and YES then you know what to look for. 

But if it is just one of a number of factors that lead to a whole greater than the sum of its parts then you too should know what to look for.

What's my take on it? Well I have a pragmatic, hedonistic swingers mindset. So if I'm free to salivate over tall, short gym fit, curvy, PAWG etc etc etc women why shouldn't women be entitled to the same? Some women want to be stuffed full all of the time. Some want it now and then or as an occasional treat and some run a mile from the porn sized cock. 

If I'm with a woman its because I like her and that most important ingrdient is in place...chemistry. 

In that moment she is all I want, desire or need. So on the flip side I expect the same from her. I don't care if she wants a man with a bigger cock next week as long as when with me she is 100% in the moment. Its me and my cock that matters most to her.

Aren't you a little short to be a Bull? Part 2 of 3

...so does size matter?

...no

...YES!!

A tenuous link to the ending of Kingdom of Heaven ( great movie by the way ) but I hope you get my weird mental leap.

Anyway of course size bloody matters and when you add the interracial element to the mix it gets yet more fucked up and complex.....if you let it.

"You can't be a Bull you're too young, too old, too short, too fat, not black, too nice, too thuggish, cock isn't big enough etc etc"

errr says who?

I'm not saying this to be politically correct but seriously. According to who's rulebook? Now as far as I'm concerned one of the key aspects of swinging is the freedom to express oneself sexually and not allowing oneself to be limited by the views and opinions of others. 

Naturally I will add the caveat as long as it is mutually consensual, no harm is done and no minors are involved.

I'm one of those people who is fascinated by people. Its no coincidence that I purposely shaped my career in a way that allows me to interact with people on a daily basis. I'm a people watcher and forever inquisitive about what makes a person tick. That curiosity has also strongly influenced my approach to swinging and BDSM too.

If one is in anyway empathic or emotionally intelligent when you scratch beneath the surface you come to the realisation that to some extent everyone is fucked up and everyone has confidence issues. It doesn't matter what they present to the world or how they look its there. Wealth, good looks, awesome tits, a hot body a hefty meaty cock none of it protests you from self doubt.

So to me what ultimately matters is how one deals with the moments of self doubt when they happen and if one is really going to allows ones sexually journey to be dictated by others. I will start with  two negative incidents that come to mind. Both happened at swinging clubs. On the first occasion I was on a large bed with three of four other couples having sex with a woman who eventually became my girlfriend. On the second occasion I was with another woman who was my girlfriend at the time. On this occasion it was a more private room at a swinging club but it had a viewing window so voyeurs could take a peek. On both occasions I overhead a woman say to the person next to her "its not THAT big". Each time I was unable to see who made the comment and each time I blocked what they said from my mind until I'd had my fun with my lady.

Once I allowed what was said to filter back to my conscious mind I felt both anger and if honest a bit of a confidence beating. Luckily for me I was already experienced as a swinger, able to untangle it and not let it leave me permanently knocked down. I wish I had caught who said it though. Good manners and respectable behaviour have always been important to me so when I see the opposite it puts by back up. Its shocking how insensitive people can sometimes be. Some of my female friends have told me about similar experiences in which they have overhead men casually making negative comments about their bodies when at a swinging club. Its such a nasty thoughtless thing to do...and I do mean thoughtless because I think the person saying it often doesn't pause to think about the impact of their words.

That was the negative......on the flip side there have also been a couple of occasions when I have been fucking someone's wife/girlfriend and I had to give the lady time to get used to my cock because I was a bit too big. As an average dicked guy ABC lol that came as something as a surprise the first time but boy did it stroke my ego. 

It also gave me a sense of what it must be like to be the proud owner of a genuinely hefty dick. If I had a porn sized cock I would have to be a more considerate to ensure that I don't do any damage with some women. But with an average cock should the woman I'm with enjoy a hard pounding fuck I don't usually have to ever so carefully pace myself.

I'm free to thrust hard and deep to my hearts content. Its often overlooked but there are as many variables in the shape and size of a woman's pussy as the are in the shape and size as a man's dick.

I will never forget the time I was at a swinging spa and got chatting with another black guy. This was well over ten years ago back when I thought I was straight lol. Anyway on the surface he couldn't have been a more perfect example of many a woman's perfect physical specimen of "the fantasy black guy". He was well over six foot good looking muscular but not too muscular for most women's tastes and judging by the shape of the towel wrapped around his waist he was blessed too.

We got chatting and before long it turned into quite a deep conversation...I sometimes have that effect on people. Long story short the poor guy was riddled with self doubt and insecurities precisely because he was such a catch superficially. He was a really nice guy and also spoke about how he is forever having to deal with insecure short guys like me who feel a need to challenge him in social situations. I felt so much empathy for the guy. Although it's the one that comes to mind I have had countless encounters with men and women in the scene and when you scratch beneath the surface without fail there is always something that crystallises that fact that we are all united by our insecurities. Once I realised that I learnt not to give a fuck about what people think if it is in any way negative to my sense of self worth.

Now don't get me wrong I'm human so I will always have my moments of weakness but they don't consume me.

So back to the myth of the BBC. There will always be size queens and there will always be husbands and boyfriends whose priority will be to witness a fat juicy black dick penetrating the love of his life. Hey I get it when with ex partners I liked it too after all I'm a massive voyeur. But for some couples it is just one of the many qualities that a couple looks for in their quest to find the perfect Bull. 

Over the years I have lost count of the number of couples, particularly cuckold couples that speak to me lamenting the fact that they just can't find a Bull that "just gets it". Yes they find it relatively easy to find someone to give the lady a decent fuck but on a cerebral level the quest to find a Bull who understand the psychology of cuckolding is more often than not a fruitless one.

I can think of a number of occasions in which there wasn't much difference in size between my cock and the cuckold and one particular cuckold whose cock was clearly bigger than mine. He is the jealous cuckold from one of my older blogs. For him part of the mind fuck was the fact that his wife was so much more sexually animated when with me in spite of his size advantage.

Interestingly I remember a conversation that I had with one of my most regular couples. When I first met them. They weren't cuckold but the husband was bi. Hi also had a massive cock. So big that when they went swinging his wife would ban him from fucking her until she had played with other guys. They said that on several occasions when they met black guy the black guy was not able to perform because the size of his dick intimidated them. I found that fact fascinating......oh and months later at a combined cuckold and bi party that I hosted. After everyone had gone home this couple stayed the night with me. Want to know what happened? ;-)

From straight Bull to Club Biversity cock sucking bisexual interracial party host? WTF?? P/T 2 of 2

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From straight Bull to Club Biversity cock sucking bisexual interracial party host? WTF?? P/T 1 of 2

I'm holding my breath, crossing my fingers and touching wood for good luck. In just a few days I will finally find out if my experiment has worked. To the best of my knowledge no one has ever hosted a swinging party that focuses primarily on bi and bi curious single black men and the swingers that want to have fun with them.

Yes there are bisexual parties and yes there are interracial parties but to the best of my knowledge the two have never been combined. Why is that? Based on my past experiences as a Bull I am convinced that the demand is out there. Back when I was still single I would be contacted on an almost daily bases by couples almost desperate to meet black men who are ok with having their cock sucked by the male half of a couple too. Bi and especially cuckold couples would complain to me in frustration about the fact that the black guys they were seeing wouldn't entertain the thought of taking things to the next level.

For me this was great. My swinging profile made it clear that I was happy to be serviced by cuckolds and to ensure that nothing was left to doubt, I changed my profile picture to one that showed me having my cock sucked by a masked cuckold. Were it not for the fact that most couples contacting me lived miles from London I would have had a lot more encounters than I did. As you may know from previous blogs that was a major source of frustration for me at the time.

Fast forward to the present, as one half of a couple that swings the situation has changed to a very different dynamic. We're both swingers but some of our tastes differ. She feel more at ease when we have fun with single guys and my preference is to have fun with other swinging couples both straight and bi. One of the ways we compromise is to never knowingly have fun with single guys unless they are bi curious. Everyone involved gets to suck cock and my girlfriend gets to have DP and DVP fun, both of which make her insanely horny.

Another area in which our preferences differ is that the idea of private and hotel meets with swingers makes her very nervous. However for me as a long time swinger it feels much more natural. When I first started swinging, clubs did not dominate the swinging landscape the way they do now. Most swingers got together at private parties and hotels.

This brings me back to some of the inspirations behind the birth of Club Biversity. One being the fact that I wanted to find a more effective way for us to get to know more like minded swinging couples.

Another and very important motivation behind the creation of Club Biversity is the fact that guys having fun with each other at swinging clubs is heavily frowned upon. Now don't get me wrong. There are a lot of open-minded swingers out there. However there are enough swingers with prejudices to make it impossible to relax completely as a bi or bi curious male when attending swinging clubs and events. Even on so called bi nights at clubs guys have come up to me with something negative to say when they have seen guys sucking or fucking each other......seriously????

Anyway, I didn't truly appreciate how on guard I was at conventional swinging parties until the first time I attended a monthly bi night that actively vetted the guests to ensure that only bisexual males got an invite.

FUCK!!!!!!!!

That was a night of revelations and one that I will never forget.......

The path to yet more pleasurable filth as a swinging couple PART 4

........as mentioned previously although I was happy to attend swinging events on a go with the flow basis, in order to increase the chances of us having possible foursome with couples, I felt that the occasional nudge to balance things out was required.

Our first couples only club event was a bit of a mixed success. We went to the VA club which is without doubt our favourite venue. It has a very large jaccuzi and all the play areas are out in the open. So if you are feeling in any way shy or self conscious this is not the right place to be. I first heard about this club when I was still single and my feelings about it were mixed. I had heard good things about it but wasn't sure how I would feel about the fact that there was no way of hiding yourself away for a more intimate experience.

However I need not have worried. I now feel that because there is nowhere to hide it adds to the sexy atmosphere of the club. In most clubs once it gets beyond midnight all the lockable areas are in use and often one of two things can happen. If you have been taking your time to get to know someone and now feel ready to have fun with them. Then trying to find a free area can be a rather frustrating mood killing experience.

Another thing that can sometimes happen is that it can make the club feel all but empty. So as a single male if you go on a night when not that many people attend and you haven't really clicked with anyone before the late hours, you can very quickly get bored. Why? because you're not having fun with anyone and you can't even have a little perv because everything is taking place behind locked doors.

However because The VA club is designed with an open layout. The is always something of interest to see. I also suspect that because there is nowhere to hide it brings out the exhibitionist in everyone and takes away some of the pressure that one might feel in other swinging establishments.

Anyway as indicated previously, our first visit to VA on a typical couples only night was a bit of a mixed bag. Without the presence of single males the atmosphere in a swinging club is very different. Couples are are lot more hesitant in engaging with each other. Although this is sometimes out of choice, more often than not it is due to shyness and not being sure how to engage with others.

You will find that men are much more respectful when approaching women. However I strongly suspect this has more to do with them not wanting to annoy their partner than them being miraculously more respectful of women than their single male counterparts. Either way, the mood is very different.

Were I to give advice to couples taking their first baby steps into swinging I would probably suggest that they go to a club on a couples night first. It is certainly a lot less intimidating. However for some it would be rather boring and something of an anti-climax.

Although we engaged a few couples in conversation the main source of excitement was the fact that we were able to fuck and watch other people fucking in close proximity to us. So it was more of a voyeuristic event than anything else.

Having said that there was one rather controversial moment that did put us to the test. At one point on one of the beds Foxy was giving me one of her legendary blow jobs. This was closely observed by a middle aged white couple who had come to sit right next to us to watch. As soon as Foxy paused for a break the woman leant over and started to eagerly suck my cock. she had clearly been waiting for an opportunity and she seized it.

It felt amazing but I was also keenly aware of the fact that the woman hadn't asked either of us for permission to suck. I pulled Foxy closer to me and quietly asked her if she was ok with the situation. I can't quite remember what she mumbled to me but her face was all the answer I needed. I'd be lying if I said no will power was needed but at that point I instantly told her to stop and we moved to another part of the club.

There we sat for a while and discussed what had happened. Basically Foxy's sentiment was very much like mine when we are dealing with single males in clubs. Had the lady shown her respect by engaging with her she would have been happy to let her give me a blow job. However because she felt ignored and disrespected there was no way she was going to be happy with the situation.

Influenced in part by that incident we never take anything for granted when involving others at clubs. There may one day be a time where an expression or slight gesture from the other will be enough for the other to know its ok to engage with another person or couple. But for now we feel it safest and best to expressly seek permission from the other.

Another thing that we learnt from that couples only night and others that we have attended is how much more difficult it is to find a couple to have fun with than it is single males. The law of averages means that it is easy to bump into at least one single male at a club who is half decent and you can have fun with. However with couples just leaving things to chance has significantly lower chance of success. Its no coincidence that the very first time we had a proper foursome it was with people already know to us. Now that was fun. I will tell you all about that adventure in the next part of this blog......

The path to yet more pleasurable filth as a swinging couple PART 3

.......the foremost questions in my mind related to how Foxy would feel if an opportunity came where there might be the possibility of me fucking another woman. Naturally from time to time it would be a topic of conversation. Particularly on the weekends that we attended swinging events. Foxy said that she would probably be ok with it when the time came, but that the idea of it made her very nervous.

Its because of this that I decided to pace things out and try not to knowingly push Foxy into any kind of situation that would make her feel uncomfortable. Fortunately I'm a patient man so waiting for the right moment wasn't going to be a problem for me. Now don't get me wrong, that didn't mean it was always going to be easy. After all, I have been a swinger for well over a decade and always loved the thrill of meeting and having fun with new people. As the months passed there would sometimes be moments when the desire to have fun that included other woman would increase. Not so much out of a desire to fuck anyone in particular but more because I wanted questions answered and wanted to come out of what in same ways was a state of limbo.

One thing however was certain. I was in no doubt that whatever the answers to the unanswered questions might be. I had no intention bringing things to an end. This was the real deal. Loving and being loved by someone you have so much in common with and get on so well with is so overwhelmingly wonderful. Were you to encounter us in our moments of normality you would be forgiven for wanting to throw up. We can be and often are sickeningly gushy with each other and cuddle constantly. I love that with a passion.

As a single male I had all the freedom I wanted. I was free to meet and have fun with anyone I clicked with and answered to no one but myself. By nature I enjoy the company of women so when you're a swinger and have the additional perk of being able to fuck some of the people you get along with.....well whats not to like?

However along with that freedom comes a downside. One might not even be aware of it on a conscious level. But over time it can creep up at you and bite you when you least expect it. That thing is loneliness. As a typically proud man I don't like admitting to it but have to acknowledge moments in time when I have felt a little smothered by it. However even when I was single I was fortunate enough not to be overwhelmed by it on too regular a basis.

This is for several reasons. I have to acknowledge the fact that I have friends and family that I can fall back on in the most extreme situations, However I also have a very strong and disciplined mind. I don't say that to boast and neither do I say that under the delusion that I am immune from cracking under the "wrong" circumstances. As with any other negative emotion I have ways of dealing with it. Not by making the mistake of trying to suppress it, but facing it head on and confronting it. All the while being careful not to give that negative state of mind too much nurturing.

So if it turned out to be the case that Foxy would never feel at ease with me fucking other women. The question wasn't if the relationship would last. But more a case of exploring what form our swinging activities would take.

Option one would be to still attend swinging clubs, soak up the sexually charged atmosphere but never involve anyone else when having fun with each other. Option two would be to focus our energies on meeting single men for MMF threesome fun. The third option would be to indulge in soft swing non-penetrative sex with other people.

Option one to me felt like one of those ideas that might sound good in theory but the actual execution may end up being problematic. Particularly if we were to go to swinging clubs on a regular bases. Were one of us to get too turned on by our surroundings it could end up being a source of frustration.

Option two sounded a little better Our first proper threesome with a single guy had been an extremely horny experience. Were this to be repeated on a semi-regular bases I could picture us having some extremely naughty adventures. However, from my perspective this would be with the condition that the male in question was like me a big fan of oral bi fun. That said I could see myself potentially feeling short changed and perhaps even resentful in the medium to long term.

Why? Because although some of my cravings now include meeting a respectful guy with a nice cock for Foxy and me to share and suck on together. For me fun with guys will always come a poor second to fun with women. Besides, as a former Bull if all our full ended up being with single males. Wouldn't that make me dangerously close to being a cuckold? .........."fuck no, ain't gonna let that happen any time soon." The same also applies from Foxy's perspective. Although she is bi-curious she has pointed out that the idea of threesomes with woman would be unfulfilling from her perspective too.

That left option three to consider. The nature of most of our adventures with others were what you would call soft swing in nature. Always extremely horny and I never walked away wishing for more to have happened, except when straight single guys were involved. Broadly speaking, when it comes to swinging I have already been there and done it all. This felt right and balanced, I could happily take this path with Foxy and not feel like I had missed out in any way.

One such soft swing encounter was at a well known naturist spa in NW London frequented by swingers . It is one of two spa that we like to go to when feeling a little horny but also quite chilled so we never go with any real agenda or sense of expectation. In terms of the decor it is the nicer of the two but not normally favoured by me because the single males that go to the venue have a reputation for being a bit too pushy when trying to ingratiate themselves with single ladies and couples.

Being as experienced in the world of swinging as I am. Handling pushy single guys is not a problem for me. But I would rather be relaxed than on guard duty when at a spa. When we arrived we did our usual ritual of taking a shower and dividing our time between one of the smallish circular Jacuzzi's and the larger pool shaped Jacuzzi, this could probably house a few dozen people.

As usual, everywhere we went we were followed. This is almost always a source of amusement for Foxy and me. The behaviour is always predictable and for me even more amusing when the guys think they are being subtle or stealth like.

On this particular evening there was quite a high percentage of black guys. This appealed to the rather wicked side of my nature that enjoys teasing. Foxy has what I would call a black man friendly body. See's all tits n ass with the face of an angel. I am now resigned to the fact that if she goes anywhere and black guys are present she is going to get looks in her direction....and that's just in normal daily life.

The single guys following us around that night were more respectable than I expected given the venue. Yes it was obvious why they were being so nice to me. But they were playing by the rules that I lived by when I was single. Always to be respectful, friendly and not carry yourself with an air of entitlement just because there were naked women in the vicinity.

As the night progressed I gradually relaxed and switched from guard dog to relaxed mode. I was also feeling rather proud to have my sexy girlfriend by my side. It was bringing out the horny exhibitionist  in us both so when we got up to find one of the small play rooms I made no attempt to lock the door.

Before long one of the black guys approached us and asked if it would be alright for him to watch. I said yes and as he entered he attempted to shut the door. A common tactic used by single guys to secure their prize and ensure that no one else ruined things for them. I told him to leave it open which he did. He stood at a respectable distance watched us climb onto the bed and started to stoke himself  as Foxy began sucking my cock.

This was a turn on for me not only because it felt good but also because I had positioned myself so that he would get a good view of Foxy's delicious curves as she sucked me. Foxy was as wet with arousal as I was hard. I invited the young black guy to slip his cock in Foxy's mouth which she happily sucked on with enthusiasm. Before long and as expected a couple of the other black guys came and watched through the gap in the door which had remained slightly open.

Soon after one of the Spa managers walked past and said that for safely reasons the door to the room had to be closed, most likely because the corridor was being obstructed. In days gone past I would most likely have told everyone to vacate at this point but on this evening I was feeling particularly mischievous.

The door shut resulting in the small and now very hot and stuffy room now being filled by three other black men. Besides myself the one already being sucked by Foxy and one white guy. Each one of them had their cock in their hand. 

Foxy continued to expertly attended to the guy's cock with her warm wet mouth. After a short while I flipped her around so that her glorious arse was in the air and positioned myself behind her. Oh what a glorious sight.

Foxy knows that I love showing off her arse and being a major exhibitionist I knew that having an audience was a major turn on for her. I could tell she was in a world of her own. Blissfully getting great pleasure from the fact that she was free to indulge in one of her favourite and most skillful activities, sucking cock. By the end of our horny session she had put a massive smile on the faces of four horny guys.

However. As horny as the situation was I was mindful of two things that night. When it comes to swinging events due to sheer numbers if one is interested in finding single males to have fun with, one will never struggle. With single women out of the equation the only way I was going to get an opportunity to play with women would be if there were other interesting couples hoping to have fun in a foursome.

There lies the problem. When it comes to couples any experienced swinging couple will tell you that it is easier said than done. Why because when it comes to foursome fun. Finding two couples equally interested in each other at a chance club or spa encounter is extremely rare. More often than not its something that has to be planned in advance.

With that in mind I began thinking of ways to try and make such encounters a more realistic possibility. 

Naturally I shared my thoughts with Foxy. I explained that although I had really enjoyed our adventure in the spa. I asked if she woukd be open to a little tweak here and there to balance things out a little.

Realistically I knew that opportunities to play with couples would never match those of meeting single males. But things could be done to at least nudge things a little bit more in the other direction.  

From this point onward we would focus the majority of our swinging adventures on two types of events. Couples nights and bi nights. Why bi nights? Because as horny as our fun in the spa was. I was somewhat frustrated by the fact that I didn't feel free to join in when Foxy sucked the guys cocks. A couple of them had lovely examples that I would really have liked to have had in my mouth too.

Not long after we attended our first couples only swinging event.....