What Makes The Perfect Bull Part 1 of 2

As with my previous blog about What Makes The Perfect Cuckold Couple Part 1 of 2. Fantasy and reality don't always amount to the same thing. So once again I will split the blog in two separate parts. In the first part I will describe what I think is a couples vision of the perfect Bull.

If there is one thing I really enjoy about any of my interests it is the people that share that interest. I am fascinated by people. So in this context when a cuckold couple catches my attention I am always eager to learn from them. For that is always my mindset. Regardless of how knowledgeable one might think one is, there is always something new and interesting to discover.

Based on my conversations with couples who refer to themselves as being cuckold I often wonder what their vision of the perfect Bull would be. Now before I go any further I feel at pains to point out that as a Bull all I can do is guess the couples perspective. So if any couples wish to discuss or comment on this blog please feel free.

I always imagine a couple's vision of the perfect Bull depends very much on what kind of couple they are. For what I would call the cuckold role-play, hot-wife couple the physical presence of the Bull is of the utmost importance. There may not be a requirement or even a desire to meet the Bull on a second occasion. So a couple like this is unlikely to deviate much from their vision of the perfect Bull when on their quest.

For the fantasy to work the Bull has to look the part. Physically he must be superior to the husband in every way. He must be taller, in better physical condition and have a cock bigger than that of the husband. With this in mind the couple will probably be looking for a male in his thirties. Old enough to present himself with a certain level of maturity and young enough for them to feel confident that he is fit enough to be sexually superior to the husband.

Although not always the case it does appear that here in the UK, in the majority of cases the Bull also needs to be black.

For the couple more interested in meeting a Bull on a semi/regular basis or cuckolding as a lifestyle the criteria is going to be slightly different. Al of the above is still important but other factors will also have to be taken into consideration. Is the Bull single and local enough to be able to meet at short notice and on a regular basis. Is the Bull experienced enough to be able to hold the interest of the couple. Can he be trusted to meet the wife alone on occasion. Is he able to do overnight or weekend sessions. Can he accommodate?

If the couple are considering bareback sex can he be trusted to play safe. Will he take the need of many cuckolds to clean up into account. To what level will he allow the cuckold husband to join in. If the husband has any Bisexual tendencies how accepting will the Bull be Will he get to know the cuckold or will he just fuck the wife and ignore the husband?

Sounds lovely doesn't it. But as with most things in the real world it is not so simple. I will explain my thoughts on why in Part Two.

What makes the perfect cuckold couple Part 2 of 2

As hinted at in the first part of this blog there is fantasy and there is reality. In my vision of the perfect scenario the Bull would be in a full time relationship with the couple and there would be several meets per month. However in the real world there are many obstacles that get in the way of this. Distance, children, chemistry and indeed nervousness from the couple about what impact the closeness of the Bull to the wife will have on their relationship.

Taking the above into account my ideal realistic desire would be to meet up to four couples on a regular basis. Each at least once a month and that at least one or two of the four be true cuckold lifestyle enthusiasts.

What realistic expectations would I have of a cuckold couple? Well nothing is set in stone because everyone is different but I like a couple where I am able to get to know the wife as well as the husband reasonably well over time. This is particularly important if you are only able to meet on a monthly basis.

Without reasonably frequent dialogue the momentum quickly dies away. This is a gentle warning to cuckold husbands. Your enthusiasm for being cuckolded, desire to discuss your fantasies and role as gatekeeper in the early stages can sometimes get in the way. Now don't get me wrong. I both understand and enjoy this process. After all if I don't get into the mind of the cuckold I will have no way of knowing how best to humiliate the cuckold in a way that is arousing and not annoying annoying to him.

So husbands, if you truly want to be cuckolded you need to control your rampant enthusiasm and give your wife the time and space to bond with the Bull. This leads me on neatly to one of the differences between my definition of what I regard as swinging and hot-wife as opposed to cuckold couples.

As a proud lone wolf Dom I have no interest in being a Bull for a couple that craves lots of black cock on a regular basis. This is not a moral judgement but a practical one. Indeed in the past I would occasionally reward my sub with a surprise gangbangs if I felt she had been a good girl. as a Dom Bull I strongly believe the importance of quality over quantity must be understood by all concerned if the arrangement is to blossom.

That's the thing about the cuckolding lifestyle you have to be prepared to invest in it if you want the rewards. Which means you have to look deep within yourself and ask yourself is this what I really want. Is it the cuckold lifestyle I seek or cuckold role-play? One has to take the journey with ones eyes open, with complete honesty and with patience.

Race and prejudice from a swinging black man's perspective p/t 2 of 2

As mentioned previously, in my life as a swinger I have always been aware of race but from my perspective it has always played a minor role in my mind when looking for people to have fun with.

Even now when it does play a bigger part in my selection process I am conscious of not inadvertently turning myself into something of a hypocrite. So a certain amount of self analysis and juggling may be required.  What do I mean by that? Well previously there were certain traits that I was always wary of. So I was and still am cautious at first when a couple or single lady indicates that they are looking for a big black man with a big cock. I don't like the feeling that I am merely a prop in someones fantasy. However on the flip side isn't everyone's starting point based on a fantasy? So as with most things in life a certain amount of balance is required.

I could be generalizing, but the impression I get is that couples would always prefer to meet a black man with the body of an Olympic sprinter and a porn star sized cock, especially the husbands lol. I am neither of these things. Which in a strange way is a good thing. Were I 6ft plus and the proud owner of a 8" plus cock I think I would always be wondering at the back of my mind if the person I was fucking was purely fixated on how I looked and had no interest in me as a person. Having said that. I do make the most of what I have by eating reasonably well and exercising to maintain my stamina and fitness levels. I consider this my duty as a Bull. If Bulls had a mission statement what would it be? lolol

Anyway, with me being a 5ft6" male with a 6.5" cock, almost by definition the people I have met do not have that same rigid fixation in their mind. They are also looking a little deeper and have an interest in some of my other qualities too. Yes the majority have a strong preference for black men but alongside that they want to meet a black man that although naughty knows when to be a gentleman and when to take control and do what comes naturally.Over the years I have spoken to black guys that fit the above description and can confirm that some of them do have similar thoughts to myself.

So in what context do I find myself wondering if I am crossing the line into prejudice and stereotyping and being careful not to? In the weird and wonderful world of cuckoldry. I adore women of all shades but when it comes to the would of cuckoldry. To really get my attention the couple has to be white and married. Plus the higher up the social class ladder they are the better......and then it dawned on me. 

After speaking online at great length to the stunning married Russian woman I found myself thinking in much the same way I have in the past. That her being white had very little significance in my mind. I just wanted her because she was hot.

Perhaps being a Bull to a cuckold couples is one of those things greater than the sum of all its parts. Individually each component not that significant. But when all put together something powerful happens. For me three of those components are the marital, racial and cultural background of the couple. With the right number of taboo boxes ticked, it tips over and something deep, raw and powerful happens. I crave it with a passion.