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06 July 2025

Club BiVersity - Diverse Desires: Bi, Pan, Kinky & Culture-Rich - London

Desire across racial lines is real. It’s everywhere in kink, swinging, and open relationship spaces—and it’s something I’ve felt, witnessed, and lived.

I’ve been in relationships with women from all kinds of backgrounds. Not because I collect cultures, but because the connection was real. Because I was seen—not “just” as a black man or a good fuck—but as a whole person. As a Black man whose life experiences, worldview, and cultural context weren’t brushed over or treated like background noise. I was met fully—and those relationships only deepened because of that.

That’s what appreciation looks like.

When it comes to Black women… I’m in awe. Oh fuck do I love my black women. The beauty, the oh so deeply feminine power, the presence—it moves me. And there’s something deeply satisfying, even heartwarming, about seeing Black women I know—whether partners or friends—being genuinely appreciated by men of other backgrounds. When I see a connection that’s mutual, grounded, and emotionally aware, it’s beautiful.

But when I sense fetishisation—when I catch even a hint of “I’ve always wanted to try a Black woman”—I’m out. I feel repelled. Why? because I know what’s underneath that phrasing: a stripping away of personhood. A desire based on myth, not truth.

That same line applies to me, too. If someone’s desire for me is rooted in a surface-level curiosity, or some "bucket list" mentality, I’m already halfway gone. I don’t care how hot the surface energy is—if I don’t feel seen, it’s empty.

Now, here’s something else I’ve noticed over time: amber flags that show up within our own racial communities. Like when someone says, “I just don’t date people from my own background.” That just doesn’t sit right with me—for some, I know it can be rooted in trauma or difficult experiences they’d rather not relive. I can hold space for that. I get it… to an extent…..which is why it’s an amber flag as opposed to being bright red.

But it’s still something I take note of. Because when desire becomes a way of distancing from yourself or your community, I can’t help but wonder what parts of yourself you're trying not to face. And I know I’ll eventually be asked to participate in that avoidance that might inadvertently chip away at my own self-worth if that woman is black .

Anyway, when I do sense genuine appreciation—when someone connects with the fullness of who I am, and wants me, not just my background or the fantasy of it—that’s something else entirely. That’s real. That’s powerful. That’s hot.

And yeah… when it’s done right? When two people meet each other fully, even across differences? When there’s respect, desire, and mutual clarity? It’s horny as fuck. That part’s not lost on me. But it’s the bonus—not the foundation.

That’s why I’m intentional about the creation of Club BiVersity, we don’t pretend colour doesn’t exist. We don’t claim to be “post-racial.” We centre the reality that our identities do shape how we show up—and that’s not something to fear. It’s something to honour.

So if you’re navigating desire across race, culture, or ethnicity—whether you’re Black, Brown, white, or mixed—my take is this:
Be honest with yourself. Yes be curious about others but also be mindful to pay attention to what you’re drawn to—and why.

Because when appreciation is real? When it’s layered, conscious, and rooted in seeing the whole person? That’s where beauty lives. That’s where pleasure deepens. That’s where sex, love, and kink can be fucking awesome.

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14 May 2025

What If You're Black & Want To Be Cuckolded?



I spent many a year playing the role of the Bull and boy did I love it. Especially when the planets aligned, and I was able to have fun with a cuckold couple on an ongoing basis.

I used to think nothing could match the thrill of fucking another man's wife....especially if he was there to "assist"

Now I'm of the opinion that it's way hotter when that role is reversed.

*except perhaps if a couple were to give me free rein to build a special bond and the wife or girlfriend is eager to be (polite cough) slut trained over an extended period of time.*

It's the deeper level of intimacy between a partner and myself that makes it extra special.
BUT where are my fellow black cuckolds, I know you're out there but hiding in plain site. I get it though we're almost always expected to play the role of the Bull but sometimes we don't want to, sometimes we want something different, something more. NOT what's expected.

That's why I've decided to create a safe space. A very private very discreet chat group that's exclusively for black men who have that deep urge to be cuckolded but no one to chat with about it.

If the above sounds like you feel free to reach out to me.

Discretion assured. 

You'll find me here......


https://fetlife.com/ClubBiversity

or

https://www.instagram.com/cocoatemptationlondon/

or

https://x.com/CocoTemptation_


26 July 2024

No I'm Not Too Scared To Go To Sex and Kink Parties By Myself. It's Just That.....

THIS IS NOT SO MUCH A BLOG BUT MORE THE OTHER END OF ONE OF TWO LINKS THAT I HAVE DECIDED TO ADD TO A COUPLE OF KINK/SWINGING SITES THAT I'M ON 

This Is The Other One

Sex in isolation of connection or chemistry does nothing for me. So although I’ll attend socials and munches as a single male I won’t attend parties by myself. I’m a very empathetic person so when you combine that with my compersion that manifests itself in the forms of both joy and lust. You’ll get why I’m a lot more excited by the idea of a woman having uninhibited fun with me at her side to facilitate/corrupt/protect (depending on her temperament)…..than I am about having sex with a stranger however hot they might be……..unless of course fun with that stranger/s is indulged in with my partner ðŸ¤¤ðŸ¤¤.

 

IF WE’RE PLATONIC FRIENDS

 

I’m just happy to see you having fun and beside me being happy on your behalf it means I get to go to an event and not have to exert quite as much mental energy reassuring people that I’m ok/safe to chill or hang out with.

 

 

IF IT’S SEXUAL BETWEEN US

 

If you’re a promiscuous woman you’re my kind of person. A shared passion can be the foundation of a great friendship. So speaking as a card carrying shout it from the rooftops sl*t worshipper I can’t think of anything more exciting than going on exciting dick discovery adventures with you and hearing about the mouth salivating adventures that you may be having when I’m not around.

 

THE NON-NEGOTIABLES

 

1)            You are Ethically Non-Monogamous NOT just non-monogamous.

Reason: I’m in no position to judge especially because I cheated in my longest ever relationship. But I made a vow to be forever transparent after that and ‘m sticking to it. Anyone close to me needs to be a person who shares this perspective.

2)            You test for STIs regularly and whenever you play with someone you. You’re also not shy about ensuring that your play partners also test regularly and are willing to share their results with you

Reason: Safe play = more fun for everyone.

*Conversations about STI checks can be a real mood killer especially at clubs so more often than not I tend to play on a second meet. In other words don’t take offence (some do) but please be prepared for an upfront chat about the last time we all got tested.

Free NHS home testing kits can be ordered online so embarrassment/being busy is no longer an obstacle